Why Does Saying Goodbye to an Oshi Hurt So Much? [Aibetsuriku]
Reflecting on the host's own experience with the end of a favorite creator's activities, we explore the intense sense of loss we feel. It is a 'quiet death' different from physical passing, leaving us with a heartbreak that our minds struggle to process. Together, we delve into how to face this modern-day suffering through the lens of Buddhism.
Unraveling a sudden parting through Buddhist teachings.
The host shares the news that Arurandeisu, a Vtuber they have long supported, has announced their graduation. Even if they are still alive, the disappearance of an 'Oshi' is a 'quiet death,' similar to a band breaking up or an idol graduating. We explore why this hurts so much, uncovering the reasons through a specific Buddhist term.
The pain seems proportional to the love we give.
One of the 'Eight Sufferings' taught by the Buddha is 'Aibetsuriku,' which refers to the pain of having to part with those we love. The host explains that this pain is proof of how deeply we truly loved that person. We wouldn't feel this way about someone who didn't matter. This pain is the reflection of how deep the love, fueled by attachment, truly was.
Giving yourself permission to grieve is important.
When you're going through a hard time, there is no need to force yourself to recover or turn it into a beautiful memory right away. The host gently suggests that it is okay to hold onto that void in your heart for now. In the second half of the episode, through a specific event the host begins to describe, they offer guidance on how to cope with this pain. Please listen to the full episode to hear the rest.
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