#271 Being Other-Driven is Uncool for Adults

The discomfort hidden in reasons like "it's not fun anymore."

Shin-kun noticed that many people he worked with tend to project the reasons for their struggles onto external factors. When listening to stories about children quitting hobbies, he notes that adults often prompt them to say things like "I'm not improving," "it's not fun," or "I can't win"—all of which shift the blame to their environment. Hearing this, Shin-kun reflects on his strong skepticism: "Are those truly the child's own words?"

Regardless of the environment, it ultimately comes down to your own mindset.

Shin-kun emphasizes that whether in sports or at work, it is up to the individual to arrange their environment and find enjoyment. He argues that blaming the company is equivalent to abandoning responsibility, which ultimately renders one's own actions and results meaningless. Midway through the episode, he shares a story about what he calls "Old Men Who Rely on Others," a narrative that will likely resonate with and startle many listeners.

It is important to build your own field.

As long as one maintains a passive, other-driven attitude, one can never achieve true growth or fulfillment, no matter how much time passes. Shin-kun asserts that having a solid sense of self, refusing to blame the environment, and actively thinking about how to find your own joy is an essential stance for being an adult and living a positive life. If you are interested, please be sure to listen to the full episode.