#127 Okaasan tte dare ni mo iwanai

The pace of self-disclosure varies from person to person.

Our listener, who often finds themselves in the role of a listener, feels uncomfortable sharing their own emotions or worries. They recently opened up to a close friend about their personal philosophy—only to find out later that the information had been passed on to the friend's partner. This left them feeling conflicted. Many of us have experienced that painful gap when something we shared as a deep, vulnerable truth was treated by the other person as casual small talk.

Mako-san and Baana-san share their thoughts on the difficulties of opening up.

Mako-san notes that they tend to prioritize logical discussions about their thoughts rather than sharing their actual struggles. Baana-san empathizes, admitting that the things they are truly struggling with are often the hardest to put into words. Reflecting on their own personalities, they explore the delicate balance of how much to share in close relationships and the anxiety over how far that information might travel.

We also touched on the immense sense of security that comes with having an 'Okaasan'.

The conversation took an interesting turn when discussing how one can often share even the deepest secrets with their own mother. The hosts reveal an unexpected common ground regarding the unique, trustworthy network that mothers possess—a space where secrets are somehow safe. Perhaps the key to overcoming the discomfort of self-disclosure lies somewhere unexpected. Please enjoy the full episode to hear the rest of the discussion.